Saturday 10 May 2008

yeah, i guess i know you

there is a saying that goes, "if you want to know someone, do not ask people what they think about him; instead ask him what he thinks of people."

been always easily fascinated with words, i remembered the quote without really understanding the meanings and significance behind it. i guess i comprehend these words better now.

friends since my high school sometimes surprised when they see me dressing differently or acting like 'i am not me'. the same goes with some other people. their thoughts made me think a lot about myself. am i not dressing appropriately? am i not talking decently? am i "too..this", or "overdo that" or "do things wrong" and stuffs. and sometimes that cause some disturbance, to the point that i sometimes yell at myself 'what am i actually doing here?'

and that made me realize about something. people can say whatever they want, feel and think about us. some scale us with their measurements without even considering who we are and what we really feel. and some even 'demand' certain behaviours from us when they really actually never even know us. people like to play God, eh? in short, people love to judge others.

anyway.

then i learnt something very useful. like mama always say- know yourself. not who you are and where you came from, but what makes you you and nobody else. people can say anything about you, to the instant that they hurt and influence you. if you dont know yourself, you will be easily affected and forced to act according to their thoughts/demands/scales/perspectives/what they think is right and nanti jadilah macam cerita bapa, anak dan keldai. so i think that "what people say cannot make us a better person or a worse person if we know who we really are- we have the power to shape and decide (with His will)". and that also made me realize how significant is the hadith 'whoever know himself will know his Lord'.

and how to face all these people? like abang said- be professional :) like a saying that goes, "in style, go with the flow; in principles, stand like a rock."

p/s: yeah im still learning.

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